Wordful Wednesday & A Smile for Me

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This is me and my middle child, otherwise known as child number 3.

He has an incredibly gentle nature and an amazing capacity to love.  He’s exactly like his father.

When I went into the hospital for an extended stay when I was pregnant with the twins he was 18 or 19 months old.  He didn’t give anyone an ounce of trouble.  He continued to smile and be obedient.  He didn’t throw fits.  He took his naps when he was supposed to and went to bed when he was told it was night time.  He even endured coming to the hospital each day to see that woman (me) who had to lay in a bed all day with all of these wires attached to her stomach, even though it was apparent the visits were not high on his list of fun things to do.

When the babies came home from the NICU they required a ton of attention from me.  I tried valiantly to give all of my children the attention they needed, but Garrett has always been the least demanding and patient one.  So, once I had taken care of the twins and the girls and it was his turn, most of the time the cycle started over again, his turn thwarted, and it was back to the twins.  He never complained.

I couldn’t have asked for an easier child.  I never once had to worry about him getting into trouble.  Writing on the walls.  Cutting hair.  Climbing up on objects that were dangerous.  He was always just around, willing to help, with a smile.

That smile however, would (and still does) turn into a 1000 watt bulb when his dad walked into the room.  For the most part (I was jealous, too), I was so thankful that Garrett had such a strong relationship/bond with his father.  He certainly did not get all that he needed/desired from me.  My arms were always full with someone else. I can’t tell you how sad that makes me.  I can see now that in just trying to survive, in many ways I let Garrett slip through the cracks.  I didn’t cuddle and kiss and love him up as much as much as I should have.  I was so busy feeling pulled in all directions that I didn’t stop and focus on that one child that hardly demanded anything of me.

So, now, when he directs his 1,000 watt smile at me, I feel like I’ve literally been given a gift.  I am so grateful that he is willing to share a little bit of what he shares with his father with me.

For Mother’s Day, Garrett, along with the other kindergartner’s at his school performed a little program for their mother’s.  During the performance he looked at me almost the whole time and flashed me that 1,000 watt smile more times than I can count when I’d catch his eye.  I felt like my heart kept getting bigger and bigger and bigger. I know that I’ll never forget those moments that we shared from across the room or how they made me feel.

I really am lucky.  It’s moments like those that make me so incredibly glad………so incredibly joyous to be a mother.  Not just any mother though, his mother, their mother.

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  1. 2

    says

    Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww! Angie. This was the sweetest post ever. And that thousand watt smile of Garret’s? It is pure perfection! I am so glad you have one super duper easy child 🙂 They are a joy…or so I have heard!
    .-= Life with Kaishon´s last blog ..b-b-b-basketball =-.

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    That was beautiful!

    I actually feel that way a little bit about my oldest- because he was only 17 months old when my middle son was born. And he was so independent that it just didn’t seem like he needed as much from me. And then another brother was born…and it just seems like I made him grow up faster.

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    You just made me cry with this. It sounds like he certainly knows he’s loved by you no matter how much time you had to give to the other children. You two are gorgeous together. So glad you got those smiles for Mother’s Day!
    .-= Elaine´s last blog ..Stars in Their Eyes =-.

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    Kirsten says

    Precious little Garret. I love that baby, he is such a big boy now. Isn’t it all worth it for those precious smiles!?! Levi is my boy that gets lost in the shuffle while my attention is demanded by other high needs children, it breaks my heart. Great post Angie, good reminder of what is truly important. Thanks…

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    Ohmagosh Angie, this made me sad to think you have felt like you let it slip between the cracks. Even if that is true, which it’s probably not, I can’t imagine he has ever felt less love than your other beautiful children!!! And if it is true, it’s not too late to start making it up.

    Such a very honest and bittersweet post. I am glad I linked up for the first time in forever to this one…..
    .-= Live.Love.Eat´s last blog ..Triple Cheese Mushrooms =-.

  6. 31

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    It’s so fun to see each personality of our children. He sounds amazing.

    Recording these moment and emotions is priceless and definitely time well spent.

    I love family history and just started a blog called Mommy’s Piggy TALES. But this time it’s the moms recording THEIR youth in 15 posts. Moms will link up once a week from June 10 – Sept. 16.

    My Nanny inspired me to do this after giving us her autobiography and I learned she used to have a pet goat and be quite the tomboy. Her story is a much treasured gift.
    .-= Janna´s last blog ..Do You Want To Be on My Top Ten Women List? =-.

  7. 33

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    Oh he is just adorable! And he does have the cutest smile!
    My oldest was 15 months when the youngest was born and in the NICU and I was afraid he was going to forget who I was while I was gone! And I was jealous when he wanted Daddy instead of mommy….coupled with new mommy hormones raging and I cried all. the. time!

  8. 36

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    he is such a cutie!!! that is a great picture of u 2 🙂 I have a child like that as well – so easy going and always has been and I too have moments of guilt b/c his sisters can be so much more demanding. Now that my youngest is moving on from the baby stage, I’m trying to give him more attention and one on one time.

  9. 42

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    Lovely photo of the two of you. And he certainly seems like a wonderful child. I think we are given exactly what we need, no more, no less. Our little daughter has been the easiest baby. I think it’s God’s way of helping me make it through graduate school with two small children!
    .-= T Rex Mom´s last blog ..Summer Break – Part II =-.

  10. 44

    says

    Oh this makes me tear up. I have a middle, and I try so hard to make sure she’s getting the same attention as her older and younger sisters. But the older one is always in the spotlight, and the youngest demands a LOT of attention. It’s tough being in the middle.
    .-= Liz´s last blog ..Momentous Monday =-.

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    That was beautiful! I got all teary eyed and everything! I know that feeling of being pulled in different directions by your other children. I only have three but my middle guy often feels left out. He doesn’t require some of the things that his brothers do. I have made it my goal during the day to try to hug him as much as I can and tell him how special he is to me. I love how he clings to me and wants to cuddle. When he was a baby until he was about 3.5-4 he never wanted to show affection like that to me so now I soak it all in.

  12. 73

    says

    What a lovely post! I love that look on his face. It says, “Okay…This picture wasn’t originally my idea, but I am loving the attention and will go along with it because I love you.” It is a look perfected at school programs. = )

    What a sweetie!
    .-= Jenny´s last blog ..WW: Tutu Cute! =-.

  13. 80

    says

    I am so glad I found your blog! I love this. I am totally not able to share a pic and NOT talk about it either, hahaha. What a great way for all of us to share with one another.

  14. 107

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    He is so, so precious–and I love your homage to him. What a sweet guy!

    And thank you so much for your beautiful comment over at my place on ‘Master Teachers’ post. It touched me so much–you are a treasure-
    Blessings!
    .-= octamom´s last blog ..Wicked Lil’ Things =-.

  15. 115

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    I could barely get thru this post without balling. My eyes kept filling up with tears and I wold have to stop for a minute 🙂 I so know that feeling, that smile. It truly is the best feeling in the world. My girls have been and probably always will be daddy’s girls. They just adore him, but every so often I am voted in as number 1 parent and I am more than happy to take on the role.

    Your children are so lucky to have such amazing parents. I heart this post so much!!
    .-= jennyleite´s last blog ..The Poppies =-.

  16. 122

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    Found you through A Beautiful Mess and glad I did! Happy Wednesday!

    I feel that because my daughter is so independent, that there have been times I wasn’t on top of her enough, coddling her. Through my pregnancy and birth of my son, she was just so wonderfully independent. She was only four, but she had a quiet understanding of my being tired and too busy. Now she is five and I feel as though I missed out on her transition from toddler to kid. I’m saddened that I didn’t relish in every moment of it.

  17. 144

    says

    Oh… I totally feel this way about Tess. She’s so sweet and low maintenance that she often gets less attention. But don’t beat yourself up over it. Fact is, 5 kids is 5 to 1, and that’s just the way it is. It sounds like he gets his attention from Dad, and that will make it all come out in the wash. (He looks just like his dad too. So cute.)

  18. 145

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    He is so sweet looking even without reading about him!!! Would he be available for my 4.5 year old daughter in about 20 years? She’s mighty cute and sweet too! 😉 And I did always want a red-headed child……

    PS: Angie, can you link this newer-ish blog site to your profile? I can’t find it listed there and had to search around for a while.
    .-= CC´s last blog ..I believe in Child Labor =-.

  19. 152

    says

    This is the sweetest post to your #3 child!!! I can’t even image a toddler and twins. You did your best I’m sure.

    What a great gift, a smile 🙂

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