Please welcome Robin from Creative 2X’s Mom. Mother of ‘one of each gender’, she spends her time learning how to be the best wife and mommy she can be. I LOVE that.
So I find myself with a few days without kids. Every mother’s dream. My in-laws called last week and wanted to the kids to visit for a few days before we all get together for the weekend. We made a plan to meet half way and pass off kids. I packed them up, not forgetting all the special lovies, but accidentally forgetting the toothbrushes (of course). Off we went to meet them and the kids were practically jumping out of their skin. They were so excited. What’s not to love about a trip to your grandparents? Pool, WII, and yummy treats. All a kid could ask for.
I was a little excited. I had thoughts of sleeping in. That was the most exciting part for me. Sleep… I think I’ve been tired since about Oct of 2005. So any extra sleep makes a huge difference. That was exciting. And I wanted to do some thrift store shopping (more of that to come later). There were a few things that I was looking forward to.
But then reality set in. It was so quiet. I set to work right away on little projects that I’d been putting off. Had some projects outside, some work ahead on their birthdays, did some baking and some blog work. But it was so quiet in the house.
I’d find myself not doing certain things during nap time, or going to shut their doors after bedtime. And there was no one there. I began to think “What’s a Stay at Home Mom without the Mom part?”
Between the dishes, and the meals, and the laundry, and the potty training, and the swim lessons, and….
This morning I was rushing around, hitting those thrift stores like I planned, scoping out a few yard sales. I found myself driving down the road and I thought, “Why am I hurrying to much?” I was driving through this beautiful part of the city and couldn’t understand why I was in such a rush.
That’s when I decided to take a deep breath and forget the “Mom” part of the day. Instead focus on where I was. The peace and quiet. No place to be. No one needing a sandwich or a nap. Just me, being.
Yeah, I’m excited for my kids to come home. It’s been a discipline though out this day to sit and be. But after that moment in the car, I knew I had to take full advantage of the time I had. No one’s going to slow down my life for me. No one’s going to tell me to stop and breath. I have to do that myself.
So “What’s Stay at Home Mom without the Mom part”? It’s just me. Learning to breath. Remembering to take time now. If I can discipline myself in these small moments, I can remember to take in the moments with the kids. It’s good. It’s a break. It reminds me that I do love being a stay at home mom.
Now, … can someone pass me the bonbons and turn on the TV? (Oh, and ignore those small children with the suitcases. They’re really not supposed to be here till tomorrow.)